The church matriarch. The dearly-beloved-by-everyone-in-the-church matriarch doesn’t think that you visit the elderly enough. Not the sick, the elderly. Actually they may be considered “homebound,” because they can’t make it to church. But you know from your visits that they can make it to the hairdresser, and the bridge club, and the women’s club. They suddenly became unable to attend church when the retired interim pastor makes way for you–the young installed pastor.
And so you begin to mark dates on your calendar, and you visit more.
When the complaints don’t stop, you visit more. But an afternoon in someone’s living room is time-consuming, it’s one-on-one. So the impact on the larger congregation is quite minimal. But people are lonely, and they want to see their pastor. Not the deacons, but the pastor. And, of course, the retired interim did nothing but visit the elderly women in their living rooms (and you suspect that he might still be visiting…).
And so you visit more, and more, until you’re utterly exhausted and not getting much done for the larger congregation.
And they’re still complaining.
You know that you can’t give them what the interim did (namely, long visits from another elderly person of the opposite sex).
So, what do you do?
photo’s by HRKVC